relationships… like plants.


Whenever you are living with chronic illness, it can be soooo easy to get caught up in yourself. And rightfully so. It’s difficult to try to understand what someone else in your life is going through. You deal with nonstop pain and physical agony, weird and random sensations in your arms and legs, sudden migraines that can’t be explained, constant fatigue and distracting floaters and flashes in your eyes. Just to name a few things that keep you from thinking of someone else’s issues. Trust me, I completely empathize with you of course…because I deal with it myself.

As much as it can seem like a daunting task to become sensitive to your loved ones and their emotions in their own personal lives, it’s very much worth it. I am a firm believer that I was given this illness not as a burden to carry, but more so as an honor to display for everyone in my circle (and even those not in my immediate circle) to see, witness, experience, and grab inspiration from. Therefore, part of that duty I feel like I have includes staying strong not only for myself but for everyone I love and care about. Yes, I’m only human, and you are, too. It’s only HUMAN to feel the immediate effects of what we’re going through because we are the ones immediately feeling them. However, it really takes someone with a steel backbone and iron fists to be able to keep cool and calm for their friends and family.

We’re all dealing with our own issues–within, and without. Mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, we’ve ALL been tested and tried throughout our lives. It’s important to put ourselves number one in our lives, because we cannot love someone unless we love ourselves first. But once we get that part figured out, we’ve gotta remember to nourish the relationships of our loved ones. Without them, we wouldn’t be who we are. For real. Whether it’s directly or not, it’s true. Look at their situations and how they deal with them. Is it different than how you handle your own? Everyone can learn something from each other. We’re placed in each other’s lives to bounce our vibes and inspiration off one another, so keep that in the forefront next time you react to their reactions.

Relationships are plants that need to be watered constantly in order to grow and stay around. Make sense?

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  1. Thank you for this I have a friend who’s been dealing with Lupus, it doesn’t affect her a lot of the time but there are those few times when she’s really low feeling a lot of aches/pains and can’t do anything about it. I love her a lots but I think we don’t talk too much because she knows I worry too much for her, so thank you for helping me understand that there is so much I can say to let her know I can be normal .. it’s hard to have such a wonderful friend and understand that she wants you to behave like she never told you about it in the first place she’s like my big sister about 2 years older than me. x

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