Have you ever felt like you put so much energy into something and it didn’t pan out to be what you’d expected? Of course you have, that is most certainly a part of life that is unavoidable.
Reaching out a little further than your comfort level initially allows you to and then not seeing or feeling the results you believed would compensate for your bravery, sucks.
When the new year came around, you instantly felt pressure to create a ‘resolution’–a goal that seems slightly unattainable but at the same time, reachable–in order to prove something to either yourself, your peers, your family, or all of the above. It’s totally fine, too. Part of the joys of being given the opportunity to see another day includes the magic of striving for something you didn’t yesterday, being even greater than you already know yourself to be. The problem is the aftermath of actually failing at something.
Truth of the matter is, nobody succeeds their first time around.
Not one single person on this Earth. Failing is inevitable. The only time it really turns into an issue is when you haven’t given yourself enough time to really seize your opportunities for growth. Because that is truly what the connection between failure and perseverance are all about.
Randy Pausch said, “The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out. The brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. Because the brick walls are there to stop the people who don’t want it badly enough. They’re there to stop the other people.”
There will always be an extra effort that is required if you really want something. Period.
And if you don’t want it that badly, that’s ok, too. As a human being you’re not meant to be the expert at everything–and you won’t be. But you are meant to find your expertise through passion and persistence in whatever it is you genuinely enjoy doing. And questioning that passion is not an option–God wouldn’t instill a gut feeling inside of you if it was not meant to happen or be there. Keep in mind, though, that that does not necessarily mean you will automatically be ‘perfect’ in your craft or your passion. You’re going to fail, but you’re also going to get better. You’ll continue to perfect your skills throughout your life until you are no longer here. That’s how legends thrive and live on beyond their physical presence.
This is probably beyond cliche of a post, but don’t give up on what you want, what you crave.
Go get it if you desire it. Do it with integrity and nobility. Failing is a part of the process–and if you fail twice or a hundred times, you’re still doing better than the person who failed once and never made another attempt to prove themselves better.